I have grown hearing that "one should learn from his/her own mistake." How many times can you say that you you learnt from your mistakes? No I think I should have asked how many times haven't you learnt from your mistakes? The first question seems obvious and you can give me several insrances but to me it's not obvious since I know not once has the same mistake occured to me.
I can't name the list of mistakes here, the list is inexhaustible. But wish to share what am learning out of this. Fearing to make mistakes is the source of our failure. How do you expect to get highest grades in education if not gone to school lest you want to use dubious means.
When is the lesson starting? Yea when do we start learning from the made mistake:
Owning up the mistake. Once you accept that it's a mistake done, the lesson starts. Never shift blames or blame the world as we liking do so, if you do so then you are distancing yourself from the lessons to be learnt, as someone put it (courageously stand up and honestly say “This is my mistake and I am responsible” the possibilities for learning will move towards you.) Most successful people progress after owning up mistakes knowing that progression comes after admitting.
Owning up mistakes is so difficult, why? Can you give reasons? Well, what I know is that if you fail, you are a failure and if you make mistakes you are a mistake. But do you know that one identifies him/herself or is identified not by mistakes (s)he makes but by courage, compassionate intelligence, commitment and creativity in life.
How can we learn from the mistakes?
- By having the confidence to admit to the mistakes either privately or publicly. This is a very important step first and if ignored then be assured no progress will follow.
- Position yourself where you can make interesting mistakes. Never avoid making mistakes.What we are not aware about success is the fact that the more challenging the goal, the more frequent and difficult turbulents will be. "The larger your ambitions, the more dependent you will be on your ability to overcome and learn from your mistakes." Therefore, no success comes easy.
- Be ready, I mean flexible and courageous to make changes where need be and necessary.
Therefore, be responsible for mistakes done, never equate a mistake and being a mistake, you cannot change mistakes but you can respond to them differently.
Now you can realize learning from a mistake is not easy but possible no matter the magnitude of the mistake.