Attitudes of an Immature Marriage

  • "I didn't grow up this way!" or "That's not the way mom or dad did it."

  • "I've got to have a life that is separate from my marriage."

  • "It's not my problem. You deal with it!"

  • "You ALWAYS..." or "You NEVER..."

  • "That's mine!"

  • "I don't have to listen to this!" or "Don't you tell me what to do!"

  • "It's all your fault!"



  • These ten attitudes are all signs of an immature marriage. If you have some of these, they indicate a flaw in your thinking regarding marriage. It is actually very common to have at least a few of these immature attitudes. After all, it's not like you went to a four year college and graduated with a degree in marriage. No, most of us jumped into marriage not knowing much about it.

    We'll take each attitude one by one, and I'll show you the flaw in the thinking process and what must be done to correct it.

    IMMATURE ATTITUDE - "I have my rights!" or "It's not fair!"

    This attitude in a marriage shows a fundamental flaw in your concept or idea of what a marriage is supposed to be. When you get married, the very act of doing so meant that you gave up any right to 'your rights'.

    It should not be 'my rights' or 'your rights' it should be 'OUR RIGHTS!'

    Marriage is a unity of two people and all that they are. As long as you hold selfishly to 'your rights' you can't achieve the true objective of a marriage-the unity of a man and woman.

    Imagine if both parties in a marriage concentrate on uplifting and promoting the marriage instead of themselves. Most of the problems in such a marriage would disappear. I mean let's be frank, the main cause of all of our arguments is pride and selfishness.

    Work towards seeing your relationship as a single whole instead of two separate parts. Else, your relationship is not a marriage it is a partnership, and you don't have a mate you have a roommate.

    IMMATURE ATTITUDE - "If this doesn't work out, we can just get a divorce."

    This attitude is incredibly naive. It suggests that there is no commitment, no purpose to the marriage other than one's own gratification. A marriage has to be more than other relationships. It needs a level of commitment that you're unwilling to give to any other human on this planet.(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});

    Marriage can not be separated from the society. Society will always influence the marriage institution. When Greece emerged as a worldwide empire, the family was affected. Whenever an empire rises up, the thoughts, the culture, and the practices of the ruling empire normally affects the lifestyle of its empire. For example when the British Empire came to some parts of Africa, the life and the ideals of British people filtered into the African society. And so, Greek thoughts and ways of marriage also affected the family as an institution. Apart from Greek culture, Roman culture also influenced the society's few of the family.

    We need to know all these because sometimes, too, the culture around us affects us very much. le christ