If you're uncertain of what happened at your first date, you need someone to help you figure it out. It's when men want to play around and not grow up until they are 40 and then expect that they deserve a younger woman after they had their play time. I would date a man in his 40s but he would have to be the kind of man that wasn't setting out to specifically date younger women. Lots of guys say they love women when they really just love women's bodies and sex with women. Alot of people confuse the idea that a love for a woman's body is an actual love and appreciation for her as a woman.