Is Your Adult Child Struggling With Cocaine Addiction? Here are 6 Advices For You
Is your child battling with cocaine addiction? Knowing that your child is abusing drugs brings a heavy burden in your heart. Your child is no longer a child or a teenager. Are you still responsible for your child’s drug addiction?
When your child is still young, you know that you are responsible for their actions. However, as they grow older, they gain freedom to do things on their own. As adults, they no longer seek your permissions as they feel more responsible to make their own decisions.
With cocaine addiction, it’s either you may feel that there’s something wrong with your parenting skills or you remain in denial about your child. Some parents may blame themselves and would say “What did I do wrong that you became addicted to drugs?”
Other parents will express their fury about their child’s drug addiction and would blame their adult child for the shame brought about by their cocaine use. No matter how you will treat the situation, there are two truths that you should be aware as parents:
1. There is no perfect parent. Everyone makes mistakes, even parents do. Don’t take all the blame for your child’s action. If you think you have made some mistakes in the past, you can redo or undo it but only make things better.
2. Your child is already an adult. Whatever decision they make is no longer your responsibility, including their cocaine addiction. When they grow old, they always have a choice. To remain sober or addicted. You should only be there to guide them and bring them back to the right path.
Still feeling down? Here are some advices for parents with adult child struggling with substance use disorder:
1. Love yourself. Don’t neglect yourself when you are trying to help your child. As your child grows older, your responsibility to your loved one should lessen, not grow. Take care of yourself, you have done your best to raise your child, teach your child but not enable.
2. Tell them in the right manner that cocaine addiction was their choice. Make them realize that it the problems of addiction happened not because bad luck or circumstances, but because they made that choice.
3. Provide support only when necessary. Don’t let them feel that you are responsible for their actions, otherwise they will not change. Don’t support them financially, particularly if you don’t have the means. Giving them money may lead them to get more hooked with cocaine addiction.
4. Make them feel they are loved. Express your love through words such as “I love you,” and by showing in deeds. However, don’t tolerate them if you know they may take advantage of you.
5. Try to find support services for your child’s cocaine addiction. If they turn you down for this, don’t insist. Someone addicted to drugs cannot be pressured to seek a recovery program. It should be voluntary.
6. Don’t think that you can rescue your adult child. Your adult child is no longer the little one who you used to care and love. Whatever decision they made in their lives, is their own free will.